Verandering se toon!

Posted in Melk at 14:24 deur griffelaar

Okay, mense hou in die algemeen nie van verandering nie. I mean,  whats to like?

Gister nog het jy presies geweet hoe alles in mekaar steek en vanoggend stamp jy jou kleintoontjie binne-in sy glorie  teen die tafel/stoel/random meubesltuk wat gister nie daar was nie, en maak die hele buurt wakker met jou bloedstollende gille of (as jy nou soos ek is en wel ander mense in ag neem) jy hop op  rond soos ‘n af-been hobo terwyl die trane jou wange afrol omdat jy jou lip nou ook stukkend gebyt het.

Nee wat, verandering is ‘n euwel mits jy ‘n doelgerigte poging aanwend om die nuwe posisie van watookal die ruimte vul te onthou in jou middernagtelike strompelinge.

Dit klink soos enige sosiale verandering. Vat nou maar sosiale netwerke. Soos die mense uit die oude doos dit gedoen het was daar menigte skemerkelkies (dank vader vir alkhol)en ‘n magdom handdrukke van ou mans wat poog om intimiderend voor te kom maar eintlik net groot koppe in Woolworths suits is. Deesdae netwerk mens letterlik. In plaas daarvan om op jou baadjie getakseer  te word, word jy nou op jou blog, facebook, myspace EN webblad takseer nog voordat jy ‘n slap-snoek handdruk gegee is. Nou dís ‘n gedaante om bo-oor te val as jy nie by jou volle bewuste is nie.

Maar selfs verandering het sy plek in hierdie wêreld. Verbeel jou net vroue het in die tyd van global warming (wat ook ‘n produk van verandering is, maar ons hou dinge liefs positief) steeds die Voortrekker gewaad of die 80′s shoulder pads (wat as Frisbees kon dien as ma’s dit toegelaat het) gedra het.  Selfs die infrastruktuur is besig om ‘n facelift te kry (al is dit net vir 2010 en al maak hulle dit nie betyds nie).

Verandering is iets om ge-celebrate te word, al is dit net omdat dit beteken dat ons nie in ellende stagneer nie. Wat is die prys van ‘n gekraakte kleintoontjie teen agtergeblewenheid nou eintlik?

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Julie 12, 2008

Eerlikheid

Posted in Melk at 10:47 deur griffelaar

die lewe wat ek lei
in al sy kunsmatigheid
het verdor in die afwesigheid van perspektief
en die stukke wat oorbly
is toe onder die stof – realiteit
want jy kan net so lank vir jouself jok
en jy kan net so vinnig vir jouself weghardloop
voordat jy jouself inhaal
en sodra die spieel vir jou die werklikheid wys
is terugdraai nie ‘n opsie nie
en begin jy hoop teen alle hoop
dat more sal bloei -
dan
verstaan jy wat dit werklik beteken
om met jouself
een alleen
eerlik te wees

die afwesigheid van geheime
en skadu-skanse
veroorsaak ‘n kaalvoet staptog
deur die lewe
waar elke doring
elke klip
wat deurdring tot jou siel
en jou gewete deurboor
herinner aan die verlede
en spookdrome
van jou verleentheid
en dit laat mens wonder
oor die prys
van liefde
en skielik besef jy
dat eerlikheid
al is wat jy het

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Antithesis of Love

Posted in Melk at 10:42 deur griffelaar

Light and darkness
Such perfect opposites, yet one defined by the other
For without darkness there can be no light and without light there can be no darkness

Is it not the same with hope and fear?
I sit here thinking, hoping, fearing
To hope is to fear – a divine uplifting fear, but fear all the same for is it not fear that inspires hope?
And is fear not a negative hope? To fear is to anguish over the passing of some thing that may not come to pass – is this fear not then inflamed by the negative hope?

To hope is to embrace fear
To embrace fear is to risk all that you have yet hoping that this risk will not be in vain

Love is hope .. divine, inspired
Affection is the seedling of love and fear the thing that looms, threatening to smother this would-be beautiful beginning

I shall let go of fear and risk the very thing from which my heart cringes
And let hope and fear take their course

just because I might end up loving someone

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Failure

Posted in Melk at 10:39 deur griffelaar

When you watch the movie “Elizabethtown”, you’ll find that it starts off with some valuable information.

No, I’m not talking about the fact that it is never a good idea to design a shoe with flaps that look like you’re squashing a bat under your foot, but its close.
The character, Drew Baylor, expresses this simple statement:

Failure is simply the absence of success

It makes you think doesn’t it? Failure isn’t some kind of monster designed to make your life miserable.
Okay, so I screwed up. No big deal.

It’s the proverbial falling off a horseback. What matters most is that you keep at it, keep smiling and most importantly – keep learning from your failure. Look behind that big fat F and discover the reason for the absence of success – maybe the timing is just off, or maybe some important piece of the puzzle is missing.

I’m not going to bore you with the cliche’d tale of Edison failing to create a lightbulb 1000 times because I’m sure you’ve heard it innumerable times. What I am going to tell you is this: KEEP MOVING FORWARD

A setback can only be turned into a comeback if you COME BACK.

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Time

Posted in Melk at 10:33 deur griffelaar

The DeBeer’s ad.

Very few ads lately have been able to make me think, but in this specific ad they made a statement that was simple, yet thought provoking.

The most precious gifts don’t come in velvet boxes.

Strange coming from a company who trades in diamonds which, incidentally come in what else? Velvet boxes. Duh.

But the I thought – why do people give diamonds?

Engagement?
Marriage?
Wedding anniversary?
The birth of a child?
A 21st birthday?

But why?
And thats when it hit me. The one thing that connects all these important events is time.

A diamond given in the form of an engagement ring is a promise of time. Yes, I will spend the rest of my life (which in SA terms means 25 years LOL) with you.
In the form of a wedding band it solidifies that promise – sealing it.
The wedding anniversary – traditionally for the 75th anniversary. Giving a diamond is saying “Thank you for 75 years of your life that you could have spent with someone else – but instead chose to spend with me.”
The birth of a child. Such a precious gift in and of itself that it merits the giving of a diamond to the mother of your child, thanking her for 9 months of discomfort, 9 months spent weaving together a hope, a dream.

Time is not only an important element in relationships, but in business also. Time is money – just ask the person who sold all his shares the day before the stock market crashes.

We do not realise how precious time really is until its too late. A ticking biological clock, an exam you need to prepare for, the day before your birthday, procrastination, a medical emergency, a car accident.

Time is of the essence.

What are you doing with your time?

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